EPISODE 28 of a Daily Dose of Greatness Quest with Trevor Crane
This is one of the most helpful and powerful questions I ask myself:
“What’s got to happen in order for you to get __________________?” (insert your goal, or what you want in the blank)
Notice this is not, “can” I have ___.” Can has nothing to do with it.
I’m presupposing that I CAN. My real question is, “HOW CAN I?”
“You deserve to be happy.” – Trevor Crane
Here’s my CHALLENGE to you today…
FIRST: Pick an area of your life that you’d like to make an improvement in.
SECOND: Identify the LC (life conditions) that you’re currently experiencing. Next, identify the BP (blueprint) that you have about how you believe it “should” be.
THIRD: Reconsider what a different or better BP (blueprint) might be.
FOURTH: Ask the question: “What has to happen in order for me to go get it?”
Need I add this next part? Go get it.
How happy are you right now? So on a scale of 1 to 10, if you had to rate it, 10 being high, 1 being very low, how happy are you? More importantly, How happy do you want to be?
On today’s show, I talk about a HAPPINESS FORMULA. One you can use this to improve the quality of your life and improve your happiness.. regardless of how happy you are already. I think this will will blow you away with it’s simplicity.
(I learned from Tony Robbins.)
Here’s the formula:
LC = BP
(LC) LIFE CONDITIONS is the actual state or situation of a specific area in our life.
(BP ) BLUEPRINT refers to how you think things should be.
When your LC equals your BP… you’re happy.
When your LC does not equal your BP… you’re not.
To change things you only have 3 choices:
- Blame (an event, someone, or yourself) *This does NOTHING positive
- Or, change your LC (Life Conditions)
- Or, change your BP (Blueprint)
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How happy are you right now? So on a scale of 1 to 10, if you had to rate it, 10 being high, 1 being very low, how happy are you? More importantly, how happy do you want to be?
Today, we’re going to talk about a HAPPINESS FORMULA. And you’re going to be able to use this to improve the quality of your life and improve your happiness regardless of how happy you are already. I’ve been excited to share this show with you. I know you’re going to love it.
(INTRO – AUDIO)
All right, so a few weeks ago, a friend of mine, a previous client of mine who was one of the happiest dudes, He seemed like a celebrity. He is always sharing online. He was always talking about giving advice to people. He was always just smiling and happy. And a few weeks ago he took his life. And it was devastating for everybody around him, devastating for his family, obviously, for his friends. Nobody really saw it coming.
And here’s the thing, I actually believe that there’s a finer line of this happiness slash, you know, pursuit. There’s a fine line between happiness and like, you being happy with the quality of your life and like also depression in this place of stuckness that people feel like they can’t get out of. And it’s pretty nuts because I’ve been doing some research about this lately, working on my new book about goals and goal setting.
I’ve been interviewing everyone, a pursuit that I can find people that are really successful. Like just the other day, I got to speak with someone who is worth 8 billion dollars. And he is doing amazing things with his business and his life. And I’ve also been interviewing people that are going through some struggling times or have gone through struggling situations.
What I want to talk to you about today is this formula that Tony Robbins actually gave me. He’s been sharing this formula for years, but I revisited it recently. And I think you’re going to get a lot out of today’s show. So real briefly, instead of just giving you the formula, I want to ask you some questions so you can participate with me. And it’s one thing to just tell you about this formula and then you go, “Oh, that sounds nice.” And another thing about you doing it with me.
So here’s what I want you to consider right now. I want you to think of an area of your life that you’re doing really, really well in, something that you’re really proud of right now. It could be your career, it could be your finances. Maybe it is, uh, the relationship that you have with a friend or family member or, or one of your kids. Or what is it? What is an area of your life that if you were to go ahead and say, you know, I’m doing pretty good in this area right now. If you’re not, don’t to be too hard on yourself. And you’ll say, you know what? If I’m going to pat myself on the back, I think my physical body is in good shape today, or your connection with your, with your, with um, with God or whatever it is that you believe in, your spirituality.
So I want you to think of that, that area of your life right now, and then I want you to describe and maybe take just a minute if you can write this down in your journal or to just pause my voice right now and just think about like, why are you happy with this area of your life? Like describe the circumstances, like what, why are you proud of this area? Remember, I’m not asking you to beat yourself up and say I’m sure it could be more, but what’s the area of your life right now? And then what are the things that are going on? Why are you proud of this area right now in your life?
Take a moment to do this right now.
I’m giving you a chance to pause, this recording if need be. I want you to do that now. And hopefully you’ve given us just a little bit of thought or you wrote some things down and you may be described your life conditions in this area.
And what I would challenge you to, to, uh, to see here is that you probably have expectations that life should be like this. That if you are winning in this area of your life that you have decided that the, that these things needed to be in place and uh, that’s kind of your formula. So here’s the formula for happiness in this area of your life. That your life conditions, whatever it is that you just described, your relationship with your friend, your family member, your business, your body, whatever it is, that it equals your blueprint for how things should be. And then I want you to think of something, an area of your life that, uh, hold on, I’ll give you the formula really quick. I’m Tony Robbins. I saw him first do this with “Larry King Live” one time he was being interviewed. I think that was the interview.
And he said, “In your life, you’re happy and you feel good about yourself, when your life conditions equal your blueprint.” And it’s real simple LC for Life Conditions equals or doesn’t equal your blueprint. So I want you to think about another area of your life, maybe an area that you want to improve might be your finances, your business, your career. Maybe it’s a relationship that you’re in or you know that you need to improve your health or your body or whatever it is. And I want you to kind of describe your life conditions right now. And my guess is, and I’m not even really guessing here, that this is, I think just a factual. This is the way that it is, is that you have a blueprint that says you need to be accomplishing much different things. That you need to have a relationship with your spouse or lover or your business that you need to be in a different place.
See, we create this BLUEPRINT thing from somewhere. This, the things that we believe should be or should not be. And now here’s why this is valuable, a valuable formula for you. See if you remember back when you were doing math? My daughter is almost 11 now and she is doing math in school. And she shows me all this old math that I can barely remember doing way back in the day where there are these formulas, right? You get a formula when this is life conditions equals your blueprint or doesn’t equal your blueprint. You have the ability to change the formula to do slightly different math.
And so if your life conditions do not equal your blueprint, let’s say in this one area of your life that you just described, what you can do is you can just, you have some choices about what you can change. And there’s 3 actual things you can change.
And by the way, let me give you a question of the day that you can go ahead and help you improve anything and everything in your life and don’t think get goals faster no matter what. So here’s what I believe. I believe that you need the power of your questions guide your focus, and then create your destiny. So if you go ahead and write down this question, this is a really powerful one.
What has to happen in order for you to get… whatever it is now you get to fill in the blank.
So what has to happen in order for you to 10x your income? What has to happen in order for you to get skinny? What has to happen in order for you to become the man or woman that attracts the person that you want to be with, your whoever that is? What has to happen in order for you to get to work on time?
See, whatever that thing is, I like to ask this question because I really don’t ask whether or not I can do something. I like to ask the question of what has to happen in order for me to get whatever it is that I want. Let’s say you’re calling somebody for customer service, uh, you know, with your cell phone or utility bill or a credit card statement or whatever it is. Or I’m talking to an attorney when I was going through my bankruptcy and I said, “How do I get out of this? It’s your job that I not go to jail.” or whatever my concern was at the time. I like to ask the question of what has to happen because then I put everybody, including myself and the people I’m communicating with in a position of trying to create that result. So here’s my question for you, or here’s my challenge to you about your, um, your blueprint and your life conditions. See, you now get to choose.
And there’s really only 3 choices. If you discover that you’re not happy about your life in any one given area, like wouldn’t it be cool to have a formula like this where you could just go ahead and start making some shifts? And I’m going to share with you the challenges, or excuse me, the 3 choices that you can make. Because there’s really only 3 choices.
The first choice, if you decide that your life conditions do not equal your blueprint about the way that you think it needs to be is you could blame somebody or something. You could blame circumstances. You could blame God. You could blame Tony Robbins. You could blame me. You can blame your mom. You can blame your dad, the people that did you wrong, whatever it is. But this is not necessarily, no change will happen in this place. There’s, this is not. When you’re adjusting blame, you’re not empowered. You’re not in your power.
So there are two other better choices for, you know, a lot of people choose to blame the circumstances. You could put this in writing. “Oh my God, this sucks” and yeah, it sucks. But that’s not going to get you anywhere. So instead you can choose to change to other things. You get to change your life conditions. Like let’s say that you decide that “You know what, in order for me to be successful in business, I need to get 10 more clients.” or “In order for me to be successful financially, I need to make a million dollars.” So if that’s your blueprint of your reasons of what has to happen in order for you to feel happy, successful, whatever it is, then that’s your blueprint. And then you can change the life conditions. You can go get the million dollars, you can go find out how to add 10 more clients, whatever it is.
So one thing you can do is you can just pony up and hey, if you’re fat and you want to lose weight, you can just change your life conditions and get those six pack abs. So you can go to the gym and build more muscle, whatever it is. So you can change your life conditions. And that’s typically where most of us try to get what we try to do. And you’re like, we have this ideal, this blueprint that we’ve created or maybe was created in our childhood of what we thought success had to look like in a different area of our life. And then you try to work hard to change your life conditions. But the other place that you can actually access tremendous power is if you change your blueprint. Like what has to happen in order for you to feel happy, for example, because at one stage I did this exercise with Tony Robbins.
I went to one of his programs called “Date with Destiny” and he shared with us that we all have different values. Like let’s say happiness is a value. That I, I want to be a happy guy, you know, I want to be successful. That’s another value that I have, you know, but then we have rules about how to get those things. Like what has to happen in order for you to feel this way? And actually I’ve seen Tony Robbins do this with people who are suicidal. Happy, successful people who are going through a challenge in their life where they feel like they have no out, you know? And then they’re like, when they get into that suffering, “There’s nothing I can do. This is beyond my ability to control. I am just in suffering and despair.” He will work with them and challenge their blueprint about what has to happen. and what are you allowed us with.
Tony gave me the guidance to do was to shift what values I have in what order, like what’s most important to me and then the rules that I set up about what has to happen in order for me to feel happy. So in the past, it might have been that I have to be, I have to be making a certain amount of money and my woman needs to make love to me a certain way and they need to get a certain amount of his or her attention. Her attention, by the way. I’m talking about a lover, you know. That these things have to happen and have all of them happen. And if it’s good weather you know, and everybody likes me, then I’ll be happy.
But see all of those previous reasons or rules that I had. My blueprint about what had to happen in order for me to feel happy were all beyond my ability to control. And why the hell would I want to go ahead and be at the whim of the universe, of other people, of the weather, of circumstance to go ahead and dictate whether or not I’m happy?
So instead Tony empowered me to create my own rules or my own blueprint for what has to happen in order for me to feel happy. For example, I gave myself a really simple rule like that. I am. I can feel happy if I just take a deep breath and smile. And I know that may seem for those of you who may be having some challenges right now, you know, it may seem like OK, well that’s Baloney. Know it’s bullshit. I don’t. I don’t buy that. I don’t know that I just immediately go to happiness. Well, see, what I did is I changed my blueprint for what has to happen in order for me to feel successful. Or what has to happen in order for me to feel like I’m worthy or I’m good enough.
And as simple as this may sound, and maybe it doesn’t sound simple to you, I found this to hold all the marbles. This changed everything for me to reconsider what my rules were about my blueprint and what has to happen in order for me to feel a certain way. And I decided to check things that made it easier for me to feel happy and all the positive things and make it much more difficult to feel all the yucky things. And so at any rate, I’m not going to go into that anymore.
My challenge for you is to take an area of your life today and do that. Pick something that you’re not happy with, an area of your life that you’d like to improve. And then get clear about the life conditions that you want to shift. You know, what do you want? Some more money? Then that’s awesome man. Go get it. You know, find out what has to happen in order for you to go get it and go get it. But I’d also challenge you to potentially change your blueprint about what has to happen in order for you to actually achieve this. And maybe set up a different standard of rules for yourself so that you don’t suffer. And I, um, any rate that’s it, I just, I want you to go get them today.
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