GAY AND BISEXUAL PRIDE MONTH
AND HOW TO SUPPORT YOUR LGBT FRIENDS,
RELATIVES AND CO-WORKERS
EPISODE 88 of a Daily Dose of Greatness Quest with Trevor Crane
SUMMARY
So it’s Pride Month and today we’ll talk about what you need to know to support your LGBT friends, relatives and co-workers.
Look, I don’t care what you call it, gay pride month, pride month, LGBT month, the pride parade… whatever.
Pride Month offers numerous events where members of the LGBT community can celebrate who they are.
But June also is a good time for straight people to show support for their LGBT friends, relatives and co-workers.
About LGBT History Month
This is a month long annual observance and celebration for gay pride, gay men, gay women, bisexual and transgender history, and its related to one of our most important civil rights movements. Wikipedia
1. Ask what’s going on
2. Attend and have the time of your life
Pride events are geared toward anyone who feels like their sexual identity falls outside the mainstream — although many straight people join in, too.
LGBT is an acronym meaning lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender. The term sometimes is extended to LGBTQ, or even LGBTQIA, to include queer, intersex and asexual groups. Queer is an umbrella term for non-straight people; intersex refers to those whose sex is not clearly defined because of genetic, hormonal or biological differences; and asexual describes those who don’t experience sexual attraction.
These terms may also include gender fluid people, or those whose gender identity shifts over time or depending on the situation.
3. Listen without judgement
4. Love everybody
MORE ABOUT LGBT MONTH:
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Month (LGBT Pride Month) is currently celebrated each year in the month of June to honor the 1969 Stonewall riots in Manhattan.
Today, celebrations include pride parades, picnics, parties, workshops, symposia and concerts, and LGBT Pride Month events attract millions of participants around the world. Memorials are held during this month for those members of the community who have been lost to hate crimes or HIV/AIDS. The purpose of the commemorative month is to recognize the impact that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals have had on history locally, nationally, and internationally.
In 1994, a coalition of education-based organizations in the United States designated October as LGBT History Month. In 1995, a resolution passed by the General Assembly of the National Education Association included LGBT History Month within a list of commemorative months.
LGBT History Month is also celebrated with annual month-long observances of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender history, along with the history of the gay rights and related civil rights movements. National Coming Out Day (October 11), as well as the first “March on Washington” in 1979, are commemorated in the LGBT community during LGBT History Month.
IN NYC & LGBTQIA+
As Pride Month continues, things are slated to get even more exciting with the 2018 New York City (NYC) Pride March aiming to celebrate members of the LGBTQIA+ community Sunday.
The first-ever gay pride parade in American history was held in NYC’s Central Park on June 28, 1970. It occurred one year after the 1969 Stonewall Riots, which were multiple violent protests organized by members of the LGBT community after the NYPD raided known gay club Stonewall Inn. The parade served as a launching pad for other cities across the United States to hold their own respective marches. It’s now commemorated annually, ultimately becoming an important civil rights movement.
OUTSIDE LINKS:
CNN Article: “How to be an ally to your LGBT friends, relatives and co-workers”
https://www.cnn.com/2018/06/22/health/lgbt-how-to-be-an-ally-trnd/index.html
Wikipedia has a great description of Gay Pride.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_pride
Gay pride or LGBT pride is the positive stance against discrimination and violence toward lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT)people to promote their self-affirmation, dignity, equality rights, increase their visibility as a social group, build community, and celebrate sexual diversity and gender variance. Pride, as opposed to shame and social stigma, is the predominant outlook that bolsters most LGBT rightsmovements throughout the world. Pride has lent its name to LGBT-themed organizations, institutes, foundations, book titles, periodicals and even a cable TV station and the Pride Library.
DAILY QUOTE
“It’s our challenges and obstacles that give us layers of depth and make us interesting. Are they fun when they happen? No. But they are what make us unique.” – Ellen DeGeneres
DAILY CHALLENGE & QUESTIONS
#1: Ask
What’s going on?
#2: Attend and have the time of your life
What are the Pride Events in your community?
#3: Listen without judgement
#4: Love everybody
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TRANSCRIPT
I don’t know if you know this or not, but this month is gay pride month. And today I want to talk to you about how you can support your LGBT friends, relatives and coworkers. I know you’re gonna love the show
(INTRO – AUDIO)
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Alright, so almost near the end of the month. So you might have almost missed it by now. But I still think it’s important that we learn how to support our friends that are gay. I’m not gay but myself sometimes that gay and I know that that’s not even the right way to talk about this. But I don’t care what you call it, you can call a gay pride month you can call a pride month even call it LGBT month, the Pride Parade whatever you want. But Pride Month offers a bunch of events were a whole bunch of people get together and again their community and they celebrate who they are. June is the month that we as straight people or us gave even there.
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If you’re straight, you get to reach out and and connect and then it gets a cool thing to just remember because it is a big part of our civil rights movement. I mean, I know I grew up in an environment where gay ness and being gay was really like it was it was a scarlet letter type of the thing. It was something that scared me I didn’t really understand.
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It was something that I grew up with. It was kind of like a joke and a Tz thing. And then when I started to get friends or start to interact in the real world and meet people that were gay I got I was like, I had my gate or auto is really freaked out by it. Now, it’s interesting just how things evolve. I was completely an ignorant and just didn’t understand at all what was going on.
And quite frankly, I still am pretty ignorant about a lot of different things that I don’t understand. And and I don’t know what other people are experiencing from their perspective, I think it’s hard for us to do that just period. And so I’ve got a little four step thing that I think you’ll like today that can help you connect with people that you might not understand and whether or not you’re talking to somebody who is LGBT or gay. Or you know, I didn’t even know what these things meant. And I’m going to share with you a strategy of how I was able to connect with some of my best friends now, some of the one we’ve got somebody that works with us.
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That is gay. And I use this strategy because not for anything like I’m trying to be tricky. I just wanted to know and understand and connect and educate myself instead of being an ignorant because that’s how I started off with my whole concept of what it meant to be gay. I’m really grateful for the fact that we now live in a world where mostly people are just accepted for who the hell they are, and not labeled by all of the.
But I know that that’s also that a lot of people who are gay or experienced other challenges with civil rights that is really important for us to become aware that I just because I don’t necessarily have stereotypes when it comes to race and creed, and color and belief and you know, your religion and what you choose. Like I don’t give a about all that and probably you don’t either, but I think it is important for us to raise our awareness. So there’s few more days that you can take advantage of what I’m about to share with you.
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Or you can just take this as a better way to connect and communicate with people that you want to get to know. You can also use this from your clients. Like I like to work with business owners and entrepreneurs. I’m trying to help most of my clients clarify their message to figure out what their customers want, that will get them to listen. So you can use this in that context as well.
Okay, so number one is ask what’s going on? So I did not know what LGBT I am. Q or what is it LGBT q i gay or LGBT? Q. I didn’t know these things met. Now I could have googled it. And I probably did just a little bit but I also reached out to someone on my team and I said, Hey, can we talk about this because I want to know what you feel and what you believe in and can you help educate me And fortunately, this worked out really well. We got to connect at a deeper level and I was just asking what’s going on I also asked her about how it growing up.
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And when she realized her her that she was gay and we just connected because I care about her and I want to know what are what people are going through my brother in law is gay and we went to the coolest wedding ever and it was the coolest when I teased him about it I said went to the coolest gay Jewish Asian French wedding I’ve ever been to.
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Because my brother in law is Jewish his husband is Asian and the whole wedding happened in France so it was really really cool and and I have to say that some of my favorite people in the world are gay the the some of them.
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I don’t know i don’t really have serious about it or not I wrote about it I just love for Can people look cool people just happens to some of the cool people I know have to be gay. Alright so number one, ASK.
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I think it’s okay to be ignorant now I definitely absolutely and positively offend people sometimes there there are some people that like Trevor crane and some people that are not on the I like Trevor crane bandwagon. So I think those crazy people, but it doesn’t really matter. Like, I think it’s appropriate for you to do what you think is appropriate for you. But I like to just speak authentically with people and connect and I don’t mind being a little stupid. Sometimes being ignorant and and asking questions. Try to clarify.
Understand I’m not coming from a place that is judgmental, unloved. I’m coming from place to really try to connect and understand and that’s where I come from. So ask what’s going on. Step number two. I think that you should attend an event, especially this month or a month. It doesn’t really matter but attend some festivities with some of your gay friends and have the time of your life. Now, private events are geared towards anybody who feels like their identity falls outside of them.
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Mainstream and that means that gay people can join into you know, because it really I know that uh. That wherever you’re coming from if you haven’t been to a gay event my god is some of the coolest things some of the coolest things I’ve ever had like when I worked on cruise ship some of my friends that I made on cruise ships some of the coolest people ever the through the best parties were the gay guys and then when I was living in Naples Florida I had this group of lesbians are one one gal came and started working with me and then she introduced me to a lot of her friends they becomes the became so my best friends when I was in Naples like they were just they were the coolest people. I always wanted to go with them to
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Key West for one of the gay festivities festivals that they had because everything was fun and party and they were just really really cool. So what I have found is if you go to a gay bar or a you know a buddy of mine took me once.
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Close to the Dolly Parton concert. And I didn’t know my friend was gay. I didn’t know the gay people have a tendency to like Doug Martin. I just knew that I put on my yellow cowboy boots, which I thought were cool, because it’s going to go watch a country something or other. And then I put on a tan ish yellow shirt with embroidery on it. And I just kept getting hit on by gay guys at the Dolly Parton concert. I had no idea until after the fact that my buddy was gay and that a lot of gay people liked all the apartment like I said guys I in just a little clueless.
And so I wasn’t paying any attention. But if I went to Disney World just happened to accidentally end up at Disney World years ago with a body mind and he and I were there on like, game week at Disney World. I didn’t even know that that was the thing I probably calling it the wrong thing. But it was the most fun I’ve ever had. Not only will be there for Disney World, I think we mostly went for the party. There’s something called pleasure Island I think it was called it’s a series of connected bars.
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The coolest time so I think if you want to have a phenomenal time, go attend some kind of event, especially this month and last few days to go attend the Pride Parade or whatever it ends up being. Okay. Number three, listen without judgment. You know, when I’m asking questions to potential clients, one of my secret powers is I don’t judge them. I learned this years ago and probably from Tony Robbins. It sounds familiar that I got it from him. But when when you judge someone, you lose the ability to influence them.
And I don’t know about how it makes you feel when somebody judges you. When you share something about your feelings or emotions or something that I that matters deeply to you. But if something judges you, you feel like a piece of, that’s how I feel. I know that my wife will often feel that way when I make a comment about something where I’m coming from a place of trying to be judgmental. I’m just making a comment.
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It might even be a comment about me about myself about my life about something I have done and sometimes the people you’re communicating with can feel as though you are being judgmental even if you’re not talking about them or doing that. So you got to be very cautious. I really like to ask questions to my potential clients to try to find out what they want and what their core challenges are and how I can best serve them. I am much more interested in trying to make sure I can help them that I am trying to persuade them so again like I said this little strategy.
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A couple of steps and given you here can help you with just your connection to about friends and family members or potentially new prospects and stuff okay so listen without judgment align with them try to see the world from their perspective without thinking and he’s good, bad, indifferent. And don’t be a. Okay, step number four is I think, love everybody this is just unconditionally I mean, I have a new son, he’s probably close to five months old now. And he said, I’m sold on the 27th day.
11:09
But so he’s fundamental. If you look at a child, you don’t look a child in the eyes a little baby if you were in line at the grocery store, and you see a little kid and he’s, he’s over it, he or she is in a stroller or over his mom or dad’s shoulder fear of travel on airplanes and stuff like kids will just look around and they’re looking at the world in nature smile they’re so innocent in.
Oftentimes I have looked into some child’s eyes and they will smile at me and I will smile at them and next thing I know we’re making funny faces back and forth and you don’t look into the eye of a little trial and start to think what a greedy little this is, you know what a line sheet and sack of this person is, you know, we don’t look into a little kid and see that but oftentimes we will look at the people around us and we have judgments based on how big they are.
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How small they are, how stupid they are one other guy, college degree, what kind of car they’re driving, what kind of clothes they’re wearing. And I think we’re getting a lot more accepting as a culture. And I feel like that is the movement that is happening. But I think that it is easy for us to get caught up in stereotypes and take things too personally, and then feel offended.
And so I think that what’s really powerful about our lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, whatever it is, for the LGBT Pride Month, is that we try to reach out and just connect in love unconditionally. I I gave a story about how I felt my dad growing up, always loved me unconditionally. They you know, they, I think the first lesson I ever had an unconditional love that I actually accepted and really felt it as an adult was from a dog that I had. I thought I talked about wanting a way to get unconditional love.
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Any animal I think dogs are one of the most amazing unconditional loving animals you can possibly find. But a body mind used to come up with the strategy of just remembering to be the dog. You know, be the dog. When your mom when he didn’t win, your wife comes out. When your husband comes on be the dog. What does the dog to the dog runs to the door to greet you, the dog licks you the dog doesn’t care what you look like the dog doesn’t care what’s going on. The dog will get up out of the nap. If you have dog that’s not too lazy.
And then just greet you and like you have just like it’s the first time they’ve ever seen you remember to wag your tail I think we can learn a lot from dogs and how we treat others. That’s all I have for you today for Gay Pride Month. little late probably should gotten to this a little earlier in the month but better late than never I want you to make today magnificent and my challenge for you today is to just try to practice any one of these are giving you four strategies how to ask what’s going on in someone’s life.
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I’ve hanging out with them and attend what they have. Oftentimes I found my gay friends are the best Take me to the best environment you have the best time listen without judgment and love everybody. AALL1234 today. And make today magnificent .That’s your challenge for today.
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